Let’s cut right to the chase: Is a destination wedding selfish?
Short answer — heck no. Long answer — still no, and I’ll tell you why.
When you’re planning your big day, everyone (and their mom) suddenly has opinions. The venue, the dress, the date — oh, and don’t forget the guest list. If you’ve been dreaming of saying “I do” on a sandy beach with the waves crashing behind you or on a cliffside overlooking the ocean, the last thing you need is someone making you feel guilty for wanting a destination wedding.
So let’s set the record straight: Choosing a destination wedding isn’t selfish, it’s intentional. Here’s why:
1. It’s YOUR Day (And You Deserve To Do It Your Way)
Your wedding should be a reflection of your love story and your vision. If that vision includes palm trees and turquoise water, guess what? You’re allowed to have that. Choosing a destination wedding doesn’t mean you don’t care about your guests, it means you’re prioritizing the experience that feels most authentic to you.
2. Destination Weddings Are An Experience, Not Just An Event
A destination wedding isn’t just a few hours of celebration, it’s a multi-day experience. It’s welcome drinks, group excursions, beachside brunches, and unforgettable memories with your favorite people. Your guests aren’t just attending your wedding, they’re getting a pre-planned vacation where you’ve done all the work for them! So, yes, all of your favorite people will love the experience!
3. Your True Supporters Will Show Up
The people who truly love and support you will be there whether that’s in person or cheering you on from afar. A destination wedding naturally narrows the guest list to those who genuinely want to celebrate with you. And isn’t that what a wedding should be about?
4. You’re Actually Saving People Money (Yes, Really!)
And no, it’s not just girl math. Think about it: A traditional wedding often means guests are shelling out for new outfits, gifts, transportation, hotels, and sometimes even childcare. With a destination wedding, it’s a bundled experience and resort stays often include food, drinks, and activities. Plus, they’re getting a built-in vacation out of the deal.
5. Stress? Never Heard Of Her
Destination weddings come with built-in coordinators and travel advisors (like yours truly!) who handle the logistics. Room blocks? Check. Guest questions? Handled. Travel changes? Managed. You get to focus on the fun stuff — like choosing your dream venue and planning your perfect day — without the stress of managing a million moving pieces.
Bottom Line: Do What’s Best For You!
At the end of the day, your wedding should be about celebrating your love in a way that feels right for you. If a destination wedding feels like your dream come true, go for it. The people who matter will support you, the memories will be unforgettable, and you’ll start your marriage in pure paradise.
Ready to start planning your dream destination wedding? Let’s make it happen!
